Legal stuff from Stuart, the blogless

Greetings, Formalities, etc. Still can't blog. I understand Mom had a classic "sundowning" episode this evening. Google that term if you are not familiar with it. I will be there with the family by early afternoon Friday. Since we will be too late for Bingo we will be checking the house for dangerous substances and hanging at the Wiltondale pool til Mom gets home, and I'll see Lel and others as they are available. Basically, there are three ways that this situation can go down. First, Mom could volunteer to us that she is having too much trouble and that she wants help moving to an alternative living arrangement. I think we all see that as unlikely. Second, and on the other end of the spectrum, we would have to petition for guardianship and start making decisions for her. I'll fill you in this weekend on how that works, but trust me that it is hard and will not be pleasant for Mom or us. Third, we continue/accelerate providing observation and assistance with daily living chores while taking control of key tasks, such as finances and cooking - with the ultimate goal of building trust so that she will allow us guide her towards a more permanent and viable arrangement. Towards the third option, I have worked with an attorney, Frank's associate, to draft durable power of attorney papers with preliminary voluntary guardianship assignments. With this completed we can free up a lot of the stress that comes with the bills, mail, etc., and be in a better position when it is time to make big decisions. I will share that with Mom on Saturday after reviewing with Uncle Jim (at Mom's request) and with any of you who want to see it. I have some concern about talking to Mom too quickly about moving as that may make her less trustful and potentially less likely to take this first important step. But I would like to hear what you have to say. Thanks again to all who are putting in the time on-site. Good blessing for you.